The Alder Club
A small, locally stewarded social experiment exploring healthier conditions for real connection in Portland.
We’re slowing down dating— and returning to how we actually relate.
What we are
The Alder Club is a private, locally stewarded social club.
Members meet through shared interests, clear norms, and a human pace — both in our online community and in the real world.
There are no profiles to optimize, no swiping, and no pressure to perform.
Show up with your passions, curiosities, presence— and let connection develop naturally.
Designed for adults roughly 35-50 years old.
Membership is based on shared values, compatible lifestyles, and completion of a basic criminal background screening.
Who it’s for
The Alder Club is for people who:
Want connection that unfolds through presence and consistency.
Are oriented toward real partnership, not endless options.
Are attracted to maturity — in themselves and in others.
Take responsibility for how they show up and how they impact others.
Value clarity, steadiness, and discernment over intensity and sparks.
Live full, grounded, active lives and want relationship to grow alongside it.
Does this feel like you?
If this resonates, you’re welcome to leave your name and email below.
This is an interest form — not a commitment. We’re simply listening for resonance.
If there’s enough interest to bring it to life, we’ll be in touch with next steps.